What’s Your Worth?

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
 – Buddha

When I was selling my house my realtor told me how to price my home. She compared it to other houses nearby, and assigned me my “worth”. I had to make the decision if it was enough or if I felt like it was worth more.

It was an important decision, because I knew no one was going to offer me more than I was asking for. I had to decide my worth before I could ask anyone else to show up and agree with me.

Relationships are no different. If you feel like you’re only “worth” so much, you will accept people in your life that will offer that much. As a result, you’ll ignore offers for more and you won’t really entertain them because you think they aren’t serious.

You won’t notice the attractive person trying to make eye contact with you. You’ll brush off flirting from someone you think wouldn’t be interested in you. And worse than missed opportunities, you’ll be drawn to someone who doesn’t meet your standards because you secretly think that’s the best you can do.

We will only let people into our lives that show up at the value we think we are worth. This is the direct result of how much you love yourself. You won’t let anyone love you more than you love yourself.

Hoping someone will love you more than you love yourself is like putting your house on the market for 100k hoping someone will offer you 200k. It’s not going to happen.

Learn to love yourself first. You set the bar for how you will be loved and treated and no one is going to come in over the bar. Learn to set the bar high. Do the work before you begin dating so that you will allow yourself to meet someone who is in line with what you truly desire.